Thoughts On Marrying In Second Life

Saedi did such a good job writing about our wedding and I don't think Ican add much to it, so I thought I'd write about the subject of marriage in SL in more general terms. One of the things that sets SL apart from other games is how many different things you can do. Many people in SL find that they meet people that they care about and love and as in real life and want to make the grandest gesture of love and marry. SL marriages are much different then real life ones. 

I think SL relationships are so much fun because most of our real life stress is left in real life. The same is true of marrying in SL. For the most part SL marriages are all the fun things you think of when you think of being married. Fun things like someone being there for you all the time, one lover who knows you well , a partner in crime for your adventures. The stress of money that hurts so many real life relationships does not seem to be much of a factor in Second Life.

So why do so many SL marriages end ? Well, I think for the same reason so many real life ones do. People live very hyper lives these days and need instant gratification. Nowhere is this truer then in SL. People end up cheating a lot in SL, so that's a big part why things fall apart. I learned from my own time married in SL ( I was married once before Saedi and partnered one other time.) There are a few other factors that can change the bliss of marriage. Real life can screw up many SL marriages- jealous real life spouses and things that keep you offline like your job and RL family can keep you offline. I remember feeling very alone when i was logging on for days at a time and not seeing my partner.

How do I think I'll make this marriage last unlike my last one?  I learned a lot since then; things like you have to trust your mate, you have to be on and spend time with them and try to make them feel as if everyday is just as wonderful as the first day you fell for each other. SL marriages aren't the same as real life ones but they require work and love to last.